Therapy is terrifying. It is simply a room. This room has some chairs, a couch, a side table, and a complete stranger. You may continuously fidget with your bracelet, necklace, or long sleeves because you do not know what to do in this room with these chairs, a couch, a side table, and a complete stranger. Do you act on your best behavior? Do you try to summarize the depths of who you are in a matter of sentences? What does this therapist/stranger expect from you? What do they think of you? Will they actually help?
From a therapist’s perspective, I am going to tell you that there are many things that therapy can be, such as: scary, overwhelming, vulnerable, intimidating, confusing. However, therapy can also be other things, such as: liberating, educational, helpful, trustworthy, eye-opening. Everything is about perspective, isn’t it? You walk into that first session, panicking about whether to choose the chair or couch to sit on, and have so many thoughts bouncing around in your mind while you’re attempting to remain as calm as possible (despite understandable skepticism and doubt). That must feel so debilitating and lonely. But you made it in that therapy room. You took that step inside that room and chose to make a change within your life. And isn’t that where it all starts?
Therapy is terrifying. But you are strong. You are resilient. You are courageous. And you made it into that room.
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This was exactly how I felt for my first session. But a year and a bit on I am so glad I did it.
It’s a completely understandable way to feel. I’m glad you’ve had a meaningful experience so far. ❤️❤️
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I wish that it was still “normal” to feel 13 years later. For some reason I feel like I cannot burden my therapist with anymore. I know that I have a problem with feeling like I need to protect everyone.
“Normal” isn’t really a thing, in my opinion. 🙂 Everyone has a different experience in therapy and your feelings are valid. I will say that we as therapists are there for you to vent to, to be that sounding board for you. Within that, we want to help you grow and move forward in your life, but you certainly are not burdening your therapist. I think it shows a level of trust to truly open up to a therapist and that’s nothing to be worried or ashamed about, but proud of yourself for. I encourage you to share these feelings with your therapist and it may perhaps help to process it. ❤️